The story goes like this: On a weekday at 10.30am, I took a cab home after doing some grocery shopping. The taxi driver was relatively young (early 30s?) as compared to taxi uncles in their 50s.
And so, the conversation goes like this…
Him: 照顾baby ah?
Him: Wah, 很好 leh…我也想这样leh
Him: Huh, 我还想有人叫我老婆leh
Me: ??? (I don’t know what he meant, so I just gave a small laugh)
Him: 是loh。不然很闷的leh. 我礼拜天没有开车，想叫朋友出去，他们都有family. 我在家里也不知道要做什么
Me：… (I didn’t know how to answer him, so I kept quiet)
We also chat about whether Cold Storage or Fairprice is a better place to shop for groceries on my short ride home.
When friends found out I’m not working and staying at home with no kids, 99.9% of the time, I will get the questions in the following order:
1) Wah, so good leh!
2) Won’t you be bored at home?
3) So what do you do at home huh?
For answers to the above, see the above conversation with the taxi lad.
You only hear of SAHM (StayAtHomeMum), so the concept of SAHW (StayAtHomeWife) is pretty unconventional and hard to comprehend in our current society. The thing is, for me to be a SAHW is a joint decision between my hubby and me. He’s not a MCP and I’m definitely not a submissive lamb. I did consider going back to work after a 2 years break (for the sake of money $$$), but I’m so glad I didn’t after hearing my ex-colleagues’ horror stories. The stress is just not worth it.
To that end, what was it like for me as a SAHW?
Money, money, money, it’s never enough, what with rising costs and inflation. The good thing is, we only have our housing loan which we pay off using our CPF. We do not own a car, and we do not have unpaid credit card bills or monthly installments. Even when I was still holding a job, we always try to live off one person’s income. We have enough to get by comfortably. Oh, and I don’t go for branded goods. (No offence to my friends out there who loves the big brands, but it’s just not me.) My only weakness is travelling and my hubby is contented with his gaming hobby. Yes, we do indulge in movies and restaurant meals, just not in excessive.
Except for that certain period of the month when I get crappy, I have not gotten major sick for the past 2 years. Self medication and a good sleep usually helps. And having home-cooked meals 70% of the time also plays a role.
I finally have the time to pursue my own interests, old and new. I love reading, and I enjoy baking. Simple pleasure of visiting the library during off-peak hours is an amazing experience. My Kindle is my constant companion. I baked the bread, cakes and cookies I want to eat 50% of the time, which saves a lot of money.
It’s in my character. I can stay at home for a week and not get bored. Beside the usual housekeeping duties, I can usually think of a million other things to keep myself occupied. True, the majority of the housework falls on me, but my hubby appreciates it and still helps out when I ask. Think of it as each of us performing to one’s strengths – his is to do a good job of bringing home the moolah, and mine is to aspire to become a domestic goddess. Haha…
Just saying, I’m not a tai-tai who only goes shopping, drink high-teas, do mani-pedi and watch K-dramas everyday. In fact, I don’t even shop nowadays (grocery shopping doesn’t count), I take my afternoon tea in the comfort of my own house with my homebaked goodies, the only time I did mani-pedi was 7 years ago during my wedding, and I don’t even know who’s who in the K-dramas.
And just so that this post has something about food, I think I shall make an avocado salad for lunch later.
Afterthoughts: From a DINK (DoubleIncomeNoKids) to a SAHW, I think I am the one that the government shakes its head and fingers at: You, are the cause of the falling birthrate, and now You, are not doing what a good citizen will do – contribute to the workforce! (thanks to you, we now have to hire FTs. Happy?) But at the end of the day,
we still love you we still have to tax you. LOL